Are you surviving when you want to be thriving?

You know you’re surviving when:

• You take each day as it comes dealing with whatever’s in front of you without much thought for anything else
• You feel like life is happening to you and you have little control over it
• You look around and you don’t recognise your life; it’s not what you thought it would be and you’re not where you thought you’d end up
• You feel like you’re going through the motions and not really living
• You’ve achieved “success,” but you still don’t feel happy (and you feel guilty that you feel that way)
• You don’t know who you really are or what it will really take to do something different
• You feel like you’re stuck in a rut; life and work are ok but not brilliant
• You seem to spend all your time doing things other people want to do
• You don’t have the answers to questions like “tell me about yourself,” “what are your hobbies, interests, likes, dislikes” and “what do you enjoy doing in your spare time?”
• You’re in a job that pays the bills, and that’s about it
• You wish you could take care of yourself, but you just don’t have time
• You find every day a struggle and yet you feel helpless to do anything about it
• You feel trapped under other people’s expectations and pressured into being someone you are not
• You feel detached from the people around you and disengaged in conversations
• You’re disillusioned with the world you find yourself living in

If you can relate to any of the above, then you know what it feels like to be surviving. 

Let's be real for a second. You cannot be happy all the time; that’s NOT what thriving is about. Thriving is about building a mindset and toolkit of techniques so that when the tough times happen you know what you need so that you can overcome them with determination and resilience. Thriving is about living life on your terms, not conforming to what other people expect of you when this isn’t going to make you happy. Thriving is feeling confident and comfortable in expressing your needs and your desires. It’s about having a job you enjoy rather than a job that “just pays the bills.” It’s about being healthy on the inside and out. Thriving is about living a life of no regrets.